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Aug. 26th, 2006


Advice Wanted

Ok so here's the scoop. I am a single momma of two boys. The first one the donor was well aware of what was going on. The second was a result of a one night stand with this guy I have known off and on through a common interest for a few years. He leaves the ountry often and after our fling this time he left the country. I got pregnant adn tried to contact him a few times but with no luck. Now my baby is two months old and Im very happy with my life, not to mention a new girlfriend. Im on vacation and when I was intown at the market I decided to check my cell phone messages and... Out of the blue he calls (erehem booty call) and now what do I do? Do I tell him he has a son? Do I not tell him? I was told that he might try to tack his son back to Egypt with him and I'd have no luck getting him back. At the same time I would like to pass on his heritage. My first sons father passed away this time last year and he has no papa so I have fully accepted and embraced being a single momma and moving forward... and now this call... what should I do? What would you do?

Jun. 7th, 2006


thank you thank you thank you

i thought i was the only crazy one who wanted to become a single parent.
here's my story, short form. i have been pregnant twice in relationships and both times it ruined the relationship. both times i miscarried. my last pregnancy was very hard, and i want to try before i get much older, because i foresee it being a difficult pregnancy again. i am 30.
i have great people in my life and i know that i will have the supposrt i need once i move home in the fall. the few people i have talked to about it are very supportive and happy for me and tell me that they know i will make a great mom. i know i will too.
if i miscarry again, i do plan to adopt.
anyone who wants to talk or if you have any good advice or any opinion, please comment.

Apr. 25th, 2006



I've talked to some friends about this and they agree, but what do you my LJ friends think...
Someone (my ex) has recently asked me to be involved in drugs (not do, just deliver). I said no because I'm pregnant and not a drug dealer... am I in the wrong for saying no and not helping out? I just feel morally wrong being weeks away from my due date, and having drug involvement. My friend is really upset and is putting a lot of guilt on me about this matter... and of course I'm hormonal and sensitive.

Apr. 14th, 2006

He Lives!, Baby, Morticia


Anon Sperm Donors in the UK

Last year legislation in the UK ended the possibility of anonymous sperm donation in the UK unless the donor was from another country. According to a recent article in the Guardian, now even foreign sperm donor fathers will be revealed to any child over 18 who requests it. An important article to read for those contemplating where the sperm might be coming from.


Mar. 19th, 2006

He Lives!, Baby, Morticia


NYT Article on Single Mothers by Choice

Hi Ladies,

Just a heads up that there is a really long article on the cover of today's Sunday New York Times Magazine on being a planned single mother. Just posting it here in case you didn't see it. Often in the NYT one has to be a member to see their articles. It is free to sign up. Normally, I'd post the whole article here, but it's really really really long.


xo M.

x-posted to my own LJ

Mar. 7th, 2006


strange dreams

Ok so as I enter the third trimester of this pregnancy the dreams begin. I had the strangest dreams with my first pregnancy and was kinda releived to not have them this time around lol and here they come. some are sweet, some are funny, some are just plain creepy, but all are very real. strange dreamsCollapse )
Ok but reality is the donor is a black man from Egypt, reality is I am carrying a boy (there was no mistaking it)and there is only one baby in my womb, reality is he is very big, the midwife said above the 90th% for size. Reality is I wake up with a wet chest and a vivid memory of the dreams from the night before. Reality is I am kinda starting to stress about the reality of a single mom with two kids and no support of the coparenting type.

Mar. 6th, 2006



I took the baby that I nanny for in to my best friend's cafeteria today, and, of course, everyone fell in love with him instantly. When he fell asleep in his stroller, my friend and I were sitting, just staring at him, and I said that I wanted a baby. She promptly said, "no you don't. You just think you do." It just annoyed me that she thinks she knows what I want better than I do...maybe she just thought I was joking, but anyway, it kind of irritated me.

Seriously, this kid is 10 months old, and SO cute, I just want to eat him up. I wonder what my friend's going to say when I tell her I'm pregnant in a few months...she might take it worse than my mother.

On another note, I found new digs to move into in a few months, with plenty of room for a little munchkin. My goal move-date is April 29th. It's three bedroom, so one bedroom will obviously be mine, one will be empty for a few months, until there's a baby on the way, and the third will probably be an office-slash-playroom.

It's all starting to come together..yay!

Feb. 25th, 2006



Okay, so there I was, sleeping away a little while ago, and I had a dream that I had beautiful newborn twin boys. My mom was even there, and a very proud grandma. I remember loving those babies so much, but, good heavens, I hope I don't have twins! After waking up, I just laid in bed, savoring the feeling of unconditional love that comes with having a child. It was quite wonderful.

This dream just kind of made me smile and freak out at the same time, so I thought I'd share.

In other news, I got a new job, and I love it! So, now the new goal month for TTC is August, for a May delivery. Good luck to all of you!

Feb. 7th, 2006



hello to all. my name is becca. im 25 years old and single. i found out last night, much to my surprise, that i am pregnant. i am confused and shocked and happy and sad, to say the least. i have no idea if this is the best thing that has happened to me or the worst. the father and i are no longer together, but friendly. we werent all that serious to begin with and we stopped seeing each other long before i found out that we were expecting. after much consideration and no sleep last night, ive come to the conclusion that although i will let him be a part of the childs life if he so chooses, im not going to be in a relationship with him. we parted ways for very good reasons, and i dont think having a baby is going to change us into loving each other. i havent told him yet. ill wait until after i have a doctors appointment. any thoughts and advice on my decision?

Jan. 11th, 2006


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I've decided to put off TTC until after my 21st birthday. After all, you only turn 21 once, right? Plus, it'll give me another 10 months or so to lose the rest of the weight I need to lose, and therefore will feel better about myself and getting pregnant.

But, I'm bound to change my mind again. I'm just like that. ;)

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